Anita Favor

May 11, 2018

Wally walks my poodle
Such a silly little dunce
I totally deserve it
Cuz I smiled at him once

Albert does my homework
I always get an “A”
I’ll let him buy me dinner
Or shine my shoes someday

Brenda gives me clothing
That she only wore one time
I’m telling all my girlfriends
To stop treating her like swine

Dennis does the dishes
Parks the car and cooks my meals
I can just imagine
How wonderful this feels

Chloé cleans my bathroom
And she doesn’t mind the smell
If she ever disobeys me
I’ll make her life a living hell

I’m popular and pretty
And my family’s really rich
If I didn’t know me better
I’d probably think that I’m a bitch

Richard W. Bray

I took a step back and I took a look around

May 10, 2018

Trouble comes up on you
In a million different ways
The man who isn’t ready
Is the man who’s gonna pay

I took a step back
And I took a look around

I damped down the fire
And I gathered up the hounds

You never know what’s coming
So you gotta be wise
Gotta keep your balance
And open your eyes

I took a step back
And I took a look around

I kept myself frosty
While making the rounds

Knew a lot of good men
Who made a mistake
Didn’t see what was coming
Till it was too late

I took a step back
And I took a look around

You can’t ignore trouble
When it’s gaining ground

by Richard W. Bray

Higher Learning

May 7, 2018

Used to make it complicated
Like a hamster spinning round
She taught me how to pause
And to slow it all down

She taught me how to live
With the stillness of a flower
She created a world
Where a minute was an hour

She taught me how to feel
She intensified my view
Until nothing else mattered
We were a nation of two

She taught me how to live
Without giving a care
She taught me how to breathe
When there wasn’t any air

She taught me how float
At the top of the sky
Then she disappeared
And I learned how to cry

by Richard W. Bray

Maybe I’m a Russian troll

May 4, 2018

I’m Burning for Bernie
Nina Turner Rocks
I’m there for Sarandon
Right down to my socks
Power to the people is my ultimate goal
Maybe I’m a Russian troll

They took away the pensions
And destroyed the middle class
Ain’t a lot of sense in
Kissing neoliberal ass
Bankers gotta pay back everything they stole
Maybe I’m a Russian troll

Who’s the Resistance?
Here’s a little hint:
Always talking bout themselves
And ignoring Flint
Gonna take a lot of love to make this country whole
Maybe I’m a Russian troll

They’re sharpening their tongues
I’ve seen this film before
They keep talking about freedom
When they wanna start a War
I’m against a battle that’ll vaporize Seoul
Maybe I’m a Russian troll

by Richard W. Bray

Says he loves me all the time

May 1, 2018

He says his marriage
Is really a jail
I could rip her to shreds
With my fingernails

Someday he’s gonna be all mine
Says he loves me all the time

She doesn’t even know
Who he really is
Would’ve left her long ago
If it wasn’t for the kids

Someday he’s gonna be all mine
Says he loves me all the time

She’s a bitch and a hag
And a vampire shrew
She’s never gonna love him
The way I do

Someday he’s gonna be all mine
Says he loves me all the time

My life would be perfect
If it wasn’t for her
That spoiled little bitch
With her diamonds and pearls

Someday he’s gonna be all mine
Says he loves me all the time

Waiting just see him
Anytime I can
I’m never gonna stop
Fighting for my man

Someday he’s gonna be all mine
Says he loves me all the time

by Richard W. Bray

Sanity Hacks

April 28, 2018

Listen to Your Fixations

Actively listening to the words you tell yourself inside your head is called metacognition. It’s the first step in stilling your mind and figuring out who you really are. This can be very frightening and very painful, but it’s worth it.

It’s a lot more fun to think about other people’s problems than it is to think about our own. That’s why we do it all the time. But fixating on other people’s lives is a colossal waste of time and effort.

What’s going on inside our heads when we fixate on people? Usually, it’s one of these three things:

1) Jealousy
2) Something about their life or their behavior makes you feel insecure
3) They’re exhibiting some trait that you recognize in yourself and that makes you uncomfortable.

Listening to your fixations and looking inward for their causes can teach you more about yourself than you ever wanted to know. But it’s worth if you want to live your own life.

Don’t Expect Life to be Fair

We are complex social organisms and our intense preoccupation with fairness is an essential aspect of our biological makeup. This trait is even observable in other social organisms.

But life isn’t fair. And you can drive yourself crazy fixating on how everybody else deserves to be punished for not being as righteous as you are. But it’s a colossal waste of time and effort and it won’t get you anywhere.

I’m not saying that people shouldn’t be held accountable for the things we do. We need to have rules and laws and courts and judges for society to function. And we need to be vigilant in our efforts to make these institutions function as fairly as humanly possible.

But don’t fritter away your precious time on Earth fixating on the great unfairness of it all. That will only make you miserable.

Live Your Own Life

When I hear myself thinking about what other people should or shouldn’t be doing, I try to quell my overactive mind by repeating this mantra:

Mind my own business. Live my own life.

This happens several times a day. Unfortunately, fixating on what other people are doing and assessing the rightness or wrongness of their behavior is a natural part of being human. But so are jealousy and hatred. That doesn’t mean they’re good for us.

We can’t prevent ourselves from wanting to regulate other people’s lives, but we can monitor our thinking and try to focus on our own behavior as much as possible.

Don’t Let Resentment Rule Your Life

Some clichés are really helpful and this bit of folk wisdom is invaluable:

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.

Even if you have a legitimate gripe with the person you resent, your resentment is your own issue. Unless magic and voodoo dolls actually work, there’s no way your resentment is going to change the world. It’s just going to make your spirit ill.

Work to make the world a better place and spread as much love as you can. You can also go to yoga class and try to breathe your resentment away. It helps.

by Richard W. Bray

Cultivating Melodrama

April 27, 2018

Constant crisis
That’s what
Life is

My soul is overbooked
My brain is overworked
My synapses are frazzled
I’m about to go berserk

Numb to everything
But trauma
Cultivating melodrama

Every time I turn around
Something hits the fan
The universe collapsing
It’s more than I can stand

Buried in catastrophe
I spend my life
Avoiding me

by Richard W. Bray

You’re saying you’re a dumbass when you’re ragging on your mate

April 22, 2018

You’re saying you’re a dumbass
When you’re ragging on your mate
You’re the one who picked her
It’s not a cosmic twist of fate

You’re saying you’re a jackass
When you complain, complain, complain
You act like such a victim
Like your marriage was arranged

You’re saying you’re a loser
When you say she treats you wrong
Do you wanna live your life
In a sorry country song?

You’re saying that you’re helpless
Cuz she don’t love you any more
Like I should draw you a map
To help you find the door

By Richard W. Bray

Seven little words

April 17, 2018

Seven little words built the blade
Twisting like a steak knife
In my heart

I really like you for a friend
(I always knew this thing would end)

Seven little words that never fade
Echo like a foghorn
In my head

I really like you for a friend
(Now I have parties to attend)

Seven little words my hell made
Tearing like a buzzsaw
At my soul

I really like you for a friend
(It was amusing to pretend)

by Richard W. Bray

All up in my Kool-aid

April 14, 2018

Known you for five minutes
And you’re all about my bizness

You’re the type of guy
Who can never a hint
You say I looked your way
But ya know I really didn’t

All up in my Kool-aid
You won’t even let me breathe
I never showed an interest
Now you’re calling me a tease

You give a lot of orders
But you don’t respect my borders

Asking bout my family
Asking bout my kid
Every place I ever been
And everything I did

A girl has got a right
To be left alone
You’re six feet tall
So act like you’re grown

By Richard W. Bray